Breast Cancer: It’s All In How You Look At It
By Lynne B.
Being diagnosed with breast cancer certainly is life
changing. Life as you know it is different, because the
moment you are diagnosed the breast cancer is now a
part of your life and always will be. The good news is that may
not necessarily be a bad thing. You see it is all in how you look
at things. Even the word breast cancer appears different to me.
I look at the word and the letter r and the letter a in the word
breast simply do not exist. This leaves me with the word BEST.
What I have tried to focus on is the BEST things that have
come my way while in this situation. By doing this is has
allowed me to put my BEST foot forward during this journey.
I have a couple of simple suggestions to keep in mind as well
as sharing some of my personal BESTS.
- Always remember to take the BEST care of yourself. Eat
healthy, exercise, get plenty of rest, get out in the fresh air,
meditate, pray whatever makes you feel good.
- Surround yourself with family and friends. This is the BEST
medicine there is.
- Mentally be the BEST you can. If something is bothering you
talk to someone or journal your thoughts. Don’t keep it
inside, you will feel better to let it out.
Now to share a couple of my personal BESTS:
- BEST memory: my family and friends left a basket on my
front door the night before surgery. IN the basket was a
bracelet. Each one of my family and friends chose a charm
for the bracelet and included a note to me explaining why
they chose the charm they did. I cannot tell you how
much this touched me. I wear the bracelet as a constant
reminder of the love and support I have from all my
family and friends.
- BEST advice: I have received is don’t get ahead of yourself.
Live in the moment, address one thing at a time and then
put it behind you. It is easy to get ahead of yourself and that
just creates chaos in your mind. My son had an idea on how
to keep me in the moment. The night before my first
chemotherapy treatment be gave me six silk roses. Five pink
and one red rose. He explained to me that each of the roses
represented one of my treatments. After each treatment I
put away one rose. It keeps me in the moment and it is good
to see the vase of roses get smaller. He told me that the
remaining red rose I must always keep in a vase as a
constant reminder that my treatments are behind me and of
all my family and friends who love me. (Who is the kid and
more importantly, who is his mother?)
- Another BEST for me is that I have had the absolute best
medical care during this whole process. Everyone who has
treated me has been blessed with the talent and knowledge
to perform miracles. I know some of these people will
remain in my life forever.
- Another BEST is I have had some of the best meals ever.
Friends and family have dropped off prepared meals or
had us over; this is always a good thing when you don’t
have to cook.
- Best policy I adopted was to be on a “need to know” basis.
Knowledge can be empowering, but too much can be
overwhelming. Don’t force yourself to digest too much
information if you are not ready. I would tell all my doctors I
am on a need to know basis. I explained to them to just tell
me the basics I did not want too much detail. Eventually, I
reached a point where I wanted to know everything, but it
is easier when I was ready.
- The BEST thing about losing my hair (and believe me this
was a hard one because losing my hair was not easy) was
getting ready in the morning. It is so quick. No washing,
drying, flat ironing or curling hair. I just place the piece on
my heard and it looks consistently good. Rain, snow, sleet,
As I said earlier, being diagnosed with breast cancer is life
changing, but it can be a change for the better in how you
look at things. It shouldn’t take having cancer to live your life
looking for the BEST of situations in life, it is good advice for
everyone. I know I have a road ahead of me, but I am
confident that the BEST is yet to come. It may be that breast
cancer is the BEsomeST thing that every happened to me.